Before you can create what you want to be and where you want to be... you need to know where you are. Think of it as your personal GPS. No matter where you are going, your journey begins here.
What we will be doing together is an ongoing program designed to begin where ever you are and give your dreams momentum.
This is going to be the foundation for your personal mission statement. Really give yourself a few mintues to get a clear assessment of your life. Get a notebook so you can build your plan.
Let's start with where you are today. Do a whole life assessment. Rate your life on a scale 1 to 10 in different areas.( one being the lowest)
Write it down!!!
1. Parenting
2. Health
3. Finances
4. Work
5. Living Situation
6. Spirituality
7. Support System
8. Fun
Date this list. This is the birthday of your new life!
Now that you have your list. choose an area that will be your beginning. A way to hone down your choice would be what is draining you the most? what tasks are pulling the most out of you. It's time to build strategies for you to get to the place you can move past maintaining your life to thriving.
For example: have you noticed you have been short tempered with your child/ren lately. When does it happen? Is it after a difficult day and your fuse is short?
If that is the case then perhaps you should look at your "fun" area. Have you incorporated fun into your life. Many single moms have a block around fun...there is so much to do.
A good strategy is to close your eyes fast forward time 20 years. What will your child/ren be telling his/her spouse ( or therapist) about growing up with you? Were you always short tempered? Did you cry often? Did you play with him/her? Was the house chaotic?
Take an honest look. Now how do you want to be remembered?
Take baby steps to get to be that mother.
Instead of rushing home from daycare today allow yourself time and space to take a walk around your block with your child. Walk slowly and really be present. Walk quietly and breath deeply. For the first 20 steps repeat to yourself quietly "I am open and receiving miracles. Every step brings me closer to my goal. I am happy. I am happy. I love my life and it shows. I am an excellent mother. I am living the life I imagined."
Hold back all other thoughts. If they come up ...don't engage them just repeat "I am happy.I am living the life I imagine". Then experience the walk. Do not over talk to your child. Just be with your child. Smile.
Find something that symbolizes the season. A leaf, a flower, a rock. Pick it up...without talking and look at it. Quietly show the object to your child. Let this 10 minutes be your transition to together time. Let it be sacred Mother child time. The less words the better....
Allow yourself time to change gears. Give yourself permission to be an excellent mother. Begin with a small ritual. This will be the start to forming good moments and memories with your child/ren.
This is an on going process... the site will be evoloving keep checking back.
Love the beautiful
Seek out the truth
wish for the good
and the best do |
"The Lord is my Shepard; I shall not want"
Psalms 23:1 |
If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves... Thomas Edison
